How long should it be after a proposal to finally get married?

My boyfriend of 14 years decided to finally propose in 2005 but till now has mentioned nothing in terms of marriage. We have three beautiful kids together.He has cheated several times, could this be the cause of us not getting married as he could still be searching for someone else to wed out there.


Am confused %26amp; don't know what to think, was this a way of putting me in one place while he can still move on with his life.





Would love to hear your answers.How long should it be after a proposal to finally get married?
Does he think you're not planning a wedding so you don't care to be married?





And if he's cheating, do you really want to be married to him? How many other kids does he have out there?





You want a wedding though it seems, so get it planned and tell him when to be there. Brides don't get to be brides by sitting and waiting on the guy to tell them what to do next.How long should it be after a proposal to finally get married?
He's cheated several times and took 14 years to propose? Why, cuz of the economy? Why now?


To answer your main question, it takes about a year to 2 years for all the planning of a traditional wedding -- to get a date and all that. So it's not about ';how long should it be'; but how long does it take.


But honestly, even though you have children together, I wouldn't marry this man -- I wouldn't even be with him. I don't deal with cheating. But that's your decision.
Most people get married within a year of proposal. Some people 2 years. Why marry a guy that cheated on you several times? Just because you have kids doesn't mean you have to get married. If you really want to marry this guy then start planning the wedding. Buy some wedding books and start working toward a plan. Throw a calendar down and give him a choice of 3 or 4 dates in the next 6 months. He either picks one or he doesn't. Either way you know how serious he is about moving forward with the wedding. Sounds to me like he doens't care or he would have already pulled the trigger.
I think you stated it perfectly - he was putting you in one place so he can still move on with his life. He probably proposed to give you what you wanted, so it seems like he's committed. Once he has you happy and preoccupied with thoughts of marriage, he's free to go out and cheat again. Over the past 4 years haven't you mentioned a wedding to him? 4 years is a looooong time for an engagement.
He will not change just because you get married. If he cheats now, he will cheat later. If you want a happy married life, you are obviously with the wrong man. He isn't marrying you because he's happy with the present situation. He likes having a quasi-wife at home, and dating other women. You can't change other people. You can only change yourself. Empower yourself to live the life that will make you happy. You'll be stronger and happier. Good luck!
If your going to plan a wedding then 6 to 19 month but if your not then 4 to 6 month is ok. Just make sure you can live together and that you have enough money to start off. Money is the number 1 reason why people get divorced.
why should he cheat if he loves you, you are better than that. tell him to stop cheating and get married. or i m sorry to say. may be to him you are only mother of his children.
7 years, once you get passes these first seven years your divorce chances cut down dramatically.