How would getting married with kids effect us monetarily if he has child support?

My boyfriend and I want to get married. We have children under the age of 5yrs. old together. But he also has a two children ages 12 to 14 yrs. old from a previous which he is currently paying child support. I also have my son from my previous primarily living with us.





I recently got laid off and am on unemployment. I will also be going back to school to advance myself in this competitive market.





I need to hear from others due to experience how this would effect us monetarily...negative or positive?How would getting married with kids effect us monetarily if he has child support?
This is dependent on the state guidelines and a rebuttable presumption.


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If you get married, it will create problems in your marriage. You already have children under the age of five. He has two children from a previous marriage and you have one. If you don鈥檛 work and you don鈥檛 help out and your husband gets full responsibility for all those kids, the house, food etc. it will not work out. You need to find another job and wait until things get better before going back to school. I understand that going back to school is important but for now I don鈥檛 think it鈥檚 the right time for you to do this. If your husband becomes the bread winner in the house then it won鈥檛 work because of him taking care of his other kids and everything else. I think you should really think about this.
Ok...you are going to HATE this---but it needs said.





Many states will give preference to ';first'; families. That means he is on the hook for child support to his other children, BEFORE yours with him.


When you marry, that comes with his baggage. I don't think your paychecks can be garnished, but any property or accounts you have together become fair game for seizure if his support goes unpaid.





I understand that your children have needs too...but in the last decade, too many judges have faced the same question...and shorting the first family on behalf of consequent children is not held to be a solution.





Good luck.
Both you and your husband, need to sit down and plan financially. If you fail to plan then you plan to fail. Hope by planning, will bring harmony for both of you and children.
It shouldnt make any difference because child support is assessed on his income only, and you guys are already living together, and have kids.
Make sure he has enough money to support his kids and doesn't believe in getting behind on child support. He's in this for the long run.
Well he will still have to pay child support reagdless of whether he marries you or adopts your kid from your previous marriage. Get ready for hard times, cash wise. My best friend has 2 kids from her first marriage and the guy remarried and had 2 kids with his new wife. He filed for hardship through the courts (claiming since he had 2 new kids with his new wife he couldn't afford to support the two original kids from his first marriage) and the judge said ';too bad so sad'; you should have thought about those two kids you had first before having more and she refused to reduce his child support payments.So he still has to pay several hundred a month on each kid from his first marriage and he has 2 new ones to take care of as well. I would think long and carefully about this before marrying the guy. Also and no offesnse meant here, but i think you guys need to use some kind of b/c and stop having babies. If you each have kids on your own why in god's name did you need kids together??