Is it common for married men to use facebook to perv at women?

Do you find this necessary? Respectful to the married man's wife? Why would someone do this? I have recently found out my husband does this, as well as using singles dating sites to do the same thing... I don't understand and it hurts. He cannot justify his actions, only to say that he had intimacy problems when this all started and now he has a tendency for addiction to internet pornography.Is it common for married men to use facebook to perv at women?
no, it is not common or respectful. don't let ANYONE tell you that it is. no respectable woman would tolerate that and you shouldn't either. if your husband has an addiction and wants to change, then get him the help he needs (there are plenty of support groups and resources and therapists out there for both of you). however, if your husband has no intention of changing things, then you need to consider getting out (especially if you have children because you don't want them to grow up thinking this is the way relationships should be). it is not healthy for you to be there and personally i see that as spousal cruelty. best of luck to you and i really hope that he will chose to change and save your marriage. and if he does, i really hope you'll give him the chance to try.Is it common for married men to use facebook to perv at women?
My exhusband had a hardcore addiction to internet porngraphy. It can get brutal. It has nothing to with you as a person, it has to do with him feeling like he is either missing out on something in his life, or he wants to oogle women he knows he could never get in real life.


It never got any easier for me to handle, and to this day I have issues with excessive porngraphy. It's just about how you feel, and does he seem to care that it bothers you? Or does he have a ';Oh well you'll just have to deal with it attitude?';


Tell him how you feel, and see how he responds. And then react accordingly. There are tons of internet addiction groups out there tho,


maybe that could help?
So many questions about porn.... I'm so glad I gave that stuff up.





Look my wife just poured on the pressure for me to quit looking at porn. Repeatedly. She let me know how insecure it made her feel, and asked me over and over to stop looking at it. She made me delete all of my porn. At one point I think she actually cried. Well I hid some porn from her for a while, but after all that I just decided it would make everyone's lives easier if I just quit watching it. So I did. I think I could have been classified as having a porn addiction too, but no more.





Thank god I did. I hate drama more than I ever liked porn.





So is it common? Probably.


Is it right? Probably not.


Would you both be better off if he quit watching it? Definitely.
It's happening more and more to men, married and not.





Now you know what's going on, the question is what to do about it if anything. You must be in shock, what a horrible thing to find out.





Does he want help for his addiction or is he too in to it?


No one can make him quit. Not even him if he's an addict. Good luck. Dump him if he won't sincerely get help.
what a bizarro question?


there are plenty of better sites than facebook to cop a perve?


Why don't you go and find someone better? he sounds like a freak.
hey my lady..


dont be sad..


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your husband is an a**hole!!!


avenge yourself..


dont frown..


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i will fill all your ';needs';...
No. That's the job for us single guys.
Sounds to me like he has wondering eyes and is missing something at home.


You might be overblowing it a bit with the perv statement. I think you can be a porn addict without facebook connotations being involved.


But that's me.


Truly, he is struggling with his relationship with you and you are not listening or caring for him like when you met and fell in love.


Once you were married, you tied him up in a little bow and now he is scratching his way out of the box. And you don't like it.


Well maybe if you were acting less like a ***** and more like a loving wife and partner he might not have to resort to porn or dating site internet hookups.


Maybe he has fallen out of love for you. Maybe he had this problem before you were married and you just were to naive to see it then.


If you are arguing a lot before you discovered this, or there is no sex in the relationship, it might have been an escape for him. A comfortable place for him to work off his sexual tensions without suffering another argument or disappointment being rejected by his wife.


Wifely obligations include serving your husbands physical needs maybe not every single time, but it should be often and regular.


If you want him there for you all the time, then you have to be there for him all the time. Sickness, extreme exhaustion, psychological events are among the things that you can decline intimacy from, but you are his wife.


I can't speak to anything else other than what you spoke of in the question/comments. But personnally, men are very visually oriented sexually and otherwise. We need to see some skin to get the juices flowing. If you aren't offering any then maybe the internet porn is next best thing. Men need their intimacy as much as women need theirs in their own way. Are we men subjected to listening and caring and sharing and providing without getting our share of the rewards of the relationship?


It is age old knowledge that women have sex to get intimacy and men give intimacy to have sex. Making love is the blanket statement for that understanding. Two people doing different things (in their brains/hearts) while doing the same thing together. does that help.





Of course he can't justify his actions. With women there is no justification for anything they don't like. Men don't like things too, but we allow you to justify them all year long.


When you judge him for his faults, remember that he may be biting his tongue with his own complaints.


This matter between you can't be healed with you continuing to be injured by this. If you feel he is cheating on you, prove it, justify yourself and leave him. If you love him and want to stay with him you must win him back from his electronic mistress.


Stop feeling like the injured partner. Realize if that's what it is that he is acting out in an unhealthy way maybe. Maybe unhealthy for you, but he probably doesn't feel too bad about it because its his life and if he isn't meeting these women in real life he is just playing around.


Try to get past this, and back to the point where you see past his faults and want him for the man you love, not hate him for his mistakes.


If he is cheating, go ahead, leave him. That is never going to change if he is screwing around. But this sounds to me like he is just miserable and lonely in the worst way, married to a frigid ***** that doesn't act like a loving wife any longer. Of course he could buy you flowers once in a while too, but who is losing out here, both of you.


If your marriage isn't happy, productive and supportive, get out now.


Otherwise, get over it and make love not war!